Couple Counseling

Our relationships all vary because as individuals our needs are different. There are some common pieces of a relationship that need to be in place in order to create a successful foundation for a relationship to build on. Some of these key components include good communication (both verbal and non-verbal), commitment, respect, and a sense of self outside of the relationship while also maintaining a relational wholeness.

Often when a couple feels like there is strain on their relationship, at least one of these elements is out of focus or not being maintained. In couple counseling, a couple is able to state what they are doing well and what areas they feel they need to work on. It is a joint effort. Just like any other system, if one part is not functioning, the system will not function, at least not in a healthy manner and/or not for very long. Also, one part of the system cannot change other parts unless there is an openness as well as a sense of safety.

It can be a very fulfilling experience to practice and express love in ways that are understood and genuinely felt by those around us, particularly by our significant other. There are myths about marriage and relationships that they just magically and naturally falling together. The reality is that without some awareness about what our partner appreciates and feels, we can be left feeling like we are spinning our wheels.

Couple counseling is intended to create a safe space to process our relationships with the intention to promote growth and learning. By building and rebuilding some of our relational foundation blocks, it is believed that we can get to a healthier place in our relationships with life long change.